"Who said marriage is miserable?

Marriage is very happy! "Really ?

There is also happiness, there is also suffering, depending on fate. But here I am, more happy than miserable. God forbid.

You ask: What causes me to attend this 23rd course?

When I invited friends to join, everyone asked:

- Do you go ?

- Ask for what ?

- If you go, I'll go.

- I will go.

- Then I'll go.

- Sure.

- Sure.

Yet many people still let me climb trees. It's a small thing.

Big deal, I went because I appreciate the effort and time that my children, grandchildren and those in the Family Pastoral Committee of the Dong Hanh community have spent to organize this course. With everyone's heart and enthusiasm, with the desire to offer us new ways to help us have more happiness, why don't we respond? And also curious to see what's new.

And when I arrived, I realized that there were indeed many new things.

I discovered many problems of young families, some of whom had to leave each other. Some of my children and grandchildren are also in this situation.

I am very blessed, because my husband and I have been married for nearly fifty years and are still as passionate as when we first got married. HEY ! HEY ! Don't tell me I'm lying. If you don't believe me, just ask your "wife" and I'll tell you. Her email is:

"don't ask, just tell@cox.net"

During this course, I received more than I gave. These experiences are very useful to help me convey to those who encounter the problems in married life that I will encounter.

What touched me the most was seeing so many tears. The feelings of each person, each person,

share with each other,..

so sincere...

so earnest,...

making it impossible for anyone to stop the emotions,

and every tear,

every tear,

sobbing, competing with each other.

I also cried and felt my heart magically blend into everyone's thoughts.

"Cry, cry, cry."

Cry tears that melt away all worries, wash away all mistakes and ask for forgiveness for each other. I thank God.

As for me, I would like to add a little more opinion to pass on a few "secrets" to men, to make their married life more enjoyable, in addition to what is presented in the course.

1- Remember this mantra - "Yes, ma'am!".

This is no joke. I have applied it every day and the results are very beautiful. I say that because my husband and I are often funny. Every time she hears this sentence, she rolls her eyes at me, but I know in her heart she really likes it. You can say: "Yes, Honey." Patience always has good results. Don't be afraid of losing face. Guaranteed no or no money taken.

2- Pay attention and care through action.

Don't lie down and watch TV while your wife washes the dishes. Be willing to volunteer to do all the heavy work such as mowing the lawn, mopping the house, vacuuming, ironing, washing dishes, cooking fish, chopping meat, picking vegetables, going to the market.... These jobs, in addition to helping you, wife, also helps us exercise physically, which is very good for our health. If you don't believe it, just try it. Thanks to that, my wife buys me beer and rewards me regularly.

3- Massage and stretch your back every night.

Although this is a small thing, the result is enormous.

4- Be a little romantic.

Sing or play songs for your wife to listen to. I bought a guitar for this purpose too. If you can write poetry, write verses praising her merits and virtues, no need to elaborate but be sincere. Here are some examples of my poems:

"Forty-nine years, drifting in all four directions,

Lost in fortune, still hurt

Going up to an elephant, going down to a dog, I don't give up.

Your mother is coming to rest, I'm sorry."

5- Teach your wife to sip a little wine so that she and her husband can relax.

6- Finally, money is considered common property, husband and wife can spend it freely, as long as they don't waste it.

That's all I practice every day. However, each person's situation is different, so please apply as you please. Until now, my husband and I's family life is still full of happiness. If I could get married again now, I would still choose her.

Dear old friends, if you haven't attended the "Renewal of Marital Life" course, please let me know next time. It's wonderful beyond imagination. It won't be a waste of time, I guarantee.

Dear,