A week has passed after the MRW 17. Many emotions have had time to settle down. Many attendees shared their thoughts and feelings after the course. There is emotion, there is choking. There is also regret and repentance, and above all, there is affection and determination for each other, for your spouse and for your entire community. In fact, the feelings of attending the course too much, the sympathy and the same feelings with this brother's feelings that have not yet subsided, are shared with the lives of other brothers and sisters, when sitting down with their partner to talk about their feelings. Learning lessons through those shares, the feelings are difficult to describe.

Through the topics and rituals, many emotions remained in my heart:

"It's been a long time" or "it's been ten years..." is a sentence that many brothers and sisters have written when sharing their feelings. That means you have had many years of married life. But for Tuan Ngan and his wife, that time is not much. This July will also be our 5th wedding anniversary. 5 years is not long but also not a short period of time. When listening to the sharing "The basic foundation for marriage" by Mr. and Mrs. Hao Hang, I had time to look back at my marriage. Emotions flooded back and it was also time for me to reconsider my family relationships, the stones on which I had laid the foundation for my marriage. More than anyone else, I understand how lucky I am to build a marriage based on love and mutual respect. The first period of marriage was truly fulfilling and happy, but life is not always as smooth as we would like. Many other things happen, then children are born, then work and hundreds of other worries make me sometimes get caught up in the whirlwind of life and forget what is really important to me. I kept thinking that my family was still there, my husband and children were definitely mine, but I didn't know how to value and nurture that happiness. That default of mine hurts the family. The torment that we valued other things more than our partner and family, the lack of sympathy and forgiveness towards each other, made our feelings fade away. But fortunately, when I sit quietly and confide in God, I find more peace in my soul, and especially through your sharing, I feel more sacred and necessary. of noble sentiments in the family.

The story that each of you shares is a "piece of cake" that you want to give to everyone. And that's right, when we receive food for the soul, our souls seem to gain strength and energy. It's true that each person's life has different circumstances, each person is given by God. for a mission, and you have been completing your missions to share with us useful experiences. Through the sharing article about dialogue, we understand that all sympathy, sharing and joining hands with each other require dialogue with each other. Everyone is human, everyone has limitations, so dialogue becomes a bridge connecting people and spouses together to create connection and understanding.

The topics and rituals that bring the most emotions and benefits to us are "Forgiveness" and "Handprints in the Sand". In married life, when two strangers come together and live in the same family, it is impossible to account for all the differences, so conflicts and discord will certainly arise. , without forgiveness, family cannot exist. God Himself has forgiven all of our sins, we have received the grace of forgiveness, and therefore, we have the responsibility to forgive each other. Only those who never make mistakes do not need forgiveness. When we sit alone together and perform the handprinting ritual in the sand, we truly face our hearts, with each other's true humanity, full of weakness and mistakes, and then realize that we are really weak-hearted. And because we are weak, we need the support and forgiveness of our partner to be able to go all the way together. “Please forgive me for the times I upset you.” Perhaps that will be a saying that should be said more often in life together.

And there are many other very useful shared thoughts that other brothers and sisters have brought. "The role of the community in marriage" to see if we have done anything for the community we live in or if we have only received it. The reasons are always given: children, work, busy. etc and etc... We need to give more when we have received so much or "Marriage is a sacrament" to see that we don't just live for ourselves.

One of the highlights of the program that will certainly remain with many participants when they leave the course is the love letters they wrote to each other. This isn't too far-fetched, but it's so precious to receive. Everyone knows that love and love letters are two things that almost always go together. But why when living a married life, love may still be there but the love letters are gone. Because we live together, because we're too close, because we have nothing left to write, or because we don't want to write or receive love letters? So, why is it that after writing and receiving a letter, when sharing the letter they received, how many people can keep their emotions? How many men read their wife's letter without tears in their eyes? And how many people say they don't like receiving letters from the person they love? I myself have received many love letters from my husband, but the most recent letter was a long time ago, right? And I don't remember the content of the last letter you wrote. So is time or ourselves the culprit that makes us love each other less?

Too long and rambling, right? Well, I'll stop here. Stop to reminisce about the moment you held my hand and said “I promise to love and respect you every day of my life” 5 years ago or “I renew my promise…to love you when prosperity is also like difficult times” 1 week ago. You and I will bring that promise into everyday life, okay?

We look forward to seeing everyone and sharing other information at the next CTDSHN session.

Fondly!